Cancer and the Family
Patty Geddie, RN, MS, AOCN
M. D. Anderson Cancer Center Orlando
Patients and their
families can often feel overwhelmed with the changes that a cancer
diagnosis can bring. Changes in family roles and responsibilities,
complex scheduling of work. physician appointments, hospitalizations,
treatments and child care, etc. Below are some practical ideas
for families to be a support to their loved one experiencing cancer.
Being present.
The power of presence is healing, in and of itself. Presence
can be in silence but in awareness of the other person. Awareness
of their need for contemplation, meditation and what some call
their ‘quiet time”. Words can often be found lacking
and not sufficient to express the caring and love that is understood
in just being there, being present.
Listening.
Allowing the patient to give voice to their thoughts, feelings
and concerns. Instead of trying to respond with an answer or solution,
validating those feelings with words like, “I hear you”.
Being the second pair of ‘ears” by listening to the
healthcare providers as they communicate information about treatment,
expected side effects. resources and test results.
Seeing.
Being a second or another pair of ‘eyes” to see and
observe behaviors and activity. “Seeing” another perspective
from the outside and reflect that view to the patient.
Hands.
Offering and performing tasks such as housework and cooking, pet
care, child care. Touch can be offered and comforting in the form
of holding hands, a hug, gentle massaging and rubbing of the back,
legs. feet and hands if appropriate.
Feet.
Driving, shopping, running errands. chauffeuring children and other family members.
Heart.
Explore feelings and express them in a productive and meaningful
way. Avoid times of intensity and allow a “cooling”
down period before giving words to feelings that can be hurtful
and destructive. |
